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A Reflection for #Lent On this Ash Wednesday, we

A Reflection for #Lent

On this Ash Wednesday, we remember that we are born of cosmic stardust and to the dust of the stars we will return.

The season of Lent reminds us that we are fragile and so is this life. One évanescent moment that is but a breath in our vast universe.

What place does dust have amid such vastness?

We take the 40 days of Lent to sit quietly with the things that keep us from experiencing the fullness given to us in Divine love, in all its vastness.

Because even in our own fragility, we are born to glitter, gleam, and glow with kindness, mercy and love. We are meant to reflect the Divine love of the same God who created the universe and who overcame death with love. We are meant to shine. 💫

Lent gives us the chance to quietly anchor ourselves in those things that create abundance. Jesus is beckoning us toward wholeness, whispering again and again His promises of abundance: Peace is for us. Joy is for us. Love is for us.

And if all of this is for us… How can we not shine? Shine little one.

You are but stardust. ✨

#carême #lent2026

🌧️ In a world filled with heavy moments and deep g

🌧️ In a world filled with heavy moments and deep grief, sometimes creativity is our lifeline. I penned Ruffled By Grace during my own storm, weaving together blessings and liturgies that helped guide me through. If you're navigating tough times, may these words offer you solace and strength. Together, let's find beauty in the chaos. 💖✨

#RuffledByGrace #HoldOnToHope #LiturgyForScreaming

Solstice 2025 A strand of my Christmas lights bur

Solstice 2025

A strand of my Christmas lights burnt out today. « Perfect » I thought because it’s already the darkest night. Now my house reflects the darkness. Sigh.

It may have been the super flu talking (oh my goodness, I hope you have not been touched by this flu; it is awful), or maybe it was grief. Whatever it was, it felt heavy, dark, and sad.

I’m tempted to say that those sentiments reflect all of 2025, but that wouldn’t be fair or true. Yes, my 2025 has contained its share of grief, but it was also full of joy, laughter, a little champagne, and good things. I am trying to hold those both together.

Gosh, it feels like I am always trying to just hold it together. And aren’t we all? At one point or another, we are all trying our best and hanging on for dear life: meandering through the darkness, searching for meaning, looking for joy.

On this darkest night of the year in the northern hemisphere, I am simply holding hope for tomorrow. That’s it. I don’t need to hold it all together. I just hope and pray that tomorrow I will see the morning light - and I know that there will be more light tomorrow than there was today.

Tonight I will light candles and snuggle in with this little furry monster and 3 of my favorites. And I hope that it will spark a little joy. And my hopeful heart plus their brightness will be a little more light in this place. I don’t need my twinkling mantle lights to find that kind of light.

May this longest night bring you rest and deep rejuvenation. May you find quiet and calm. May you be embraced by hope in the dark.
#solstice
#ruffledbygrace
#solsticedhiver

Grief & Gratitude.  It’s strange how often they wa

Grief & Gratitude.
 It’s strange how often they walk side by side, how both can rise from the same deep well of love. I’m learning that it’s possible to miss what was, honor what is, and still be thankful for the tenderness woven through it all. ✨

Wherever today finds you, may you remember this: you are loved, you are held, you are cherished.

You are enough, beloved. ♥️ And what a beautiful, bountiful truth that is.

My thanks to @tehomcenterpublishing for their support along the way and for publishing the words of my heart. Thank you @olhapro_photography for snapping this photo at my Paris Book Launch that was so perfectly planned by @phylliskentevents.

#ruffledbygrace #ruffledbygraceweddings #booklaunchevent

The Off-Season 🩷 My wedding season was smaller th

The Off-Season 🩷

My wedding season was smaller than years’ past. But my couples? I can’t even tell you enough about them. They were perfect. They filled my heart in so many ways, especially this year, when I so desperately needed it.

And now… Fin.

But the love doesn’t stop. 💛☺️ In addition to planning for next year’s couples, I wrote a little book. 📕 And I’d love to get it in your hands.

Grateful to be able to offer author drop-ins to your book club, or church group. If you have an existing book club or would like to start one, I would love for you to read Ruffled. And I would be happy to drop by via video, discuss, and answer questions.

You can drop me a DM and I will get you into my winter schedule. ❄️

Love to you all — Even in the off-season! 😉

Grief is deep and wide. So is joy. ✨ And sometimes

Grief is deep and wide. So is joy. ✨ And sometimes they are mixed together.

Yesterday would have been my Dad’s 79th Birthday. Instead, we marked 41 days since he left us.

Mom and I spent the day together. 💛 We celebrated as much as we could. We did the things he would have wanted to do. We enjoyed the things he enjoyed. We ate well. We sat in the sunshine☀️ . We got to breathe in the crisp fall air. 🍂

I am so delighted that I got to spend the day with my Momma. We smiled. We remembered. It was a good day.

#griefandloss #griefjourney #griefislove

Happy Heavenly Birthday, Dad. 🩷 It’s been 41 day

Happy Heavenly Birthday, Dad. 🩷

It’s been 41 days since you left.

So much has happened and we have missed you. But we are trying our best to love and laugh and celebrate. ✨We know that’s what you would have wanted.

And so, I’m trying. We are trying. 💔 We love you. We miss you.

Thank you to @olhapro_photography for this photo. As I was signing my books in Paris, I got to look over and see this portrait of my parents. Their presence was with me at my Book Launch. Now I am lucky enough to have closed out my wedding season with the most precious couple, and am back to NY to spend some time with my Momma. 🎃 It’s time for cider and donuts and pumpkins here, and I am all in! 🍁

#ruffledbygrace #booklaunch #authorsoninstagram #griefjourney #autumnvibes🍁

✨ This evening was everything I could have dreamed

✨ This evening was everything I could have dreamed of: to be surrounded by joy and embraced with love as I raised my glass and read “A Toasting Benediction” from my own book!

Never in a million years did I dream of writing this book though. 💔 The hard parts, the pieces of my heart that were broken, the grief and sorrow that held me captive for too long - none of that was a dream. No one wishes to write a tale that exposes their scars and opens their hearts so vulnerably.

But so many of the people gathered in this room for my Paris Book Launch held me together in one way or another. They pointed me toward Jesus and helped me to remember the God I once knew, and not the Executive Jesus who had been running my life inside of the institutional church. They were patient with me when I had nothing but brokenness to offer back and loved me with prayer, Thai soup, friendship, and a little champagne. 🍾

This project was LONG, winding, frustrating, and liberating. And now, it is here. It is full of hard words, yes, but it is full of prayers, benedictions, and liturgies. It is full of hope. ✨

My dream for this little book of mine? That it would reach the people who need it, that it would offer words of encouragement for those who need them, and that it would be a reminder of the depth, breadth and power of love. 💗

Ruffled By Grace is here. My heart is full. Gratitude and grace abound. 🩷✨🍾

My thanks to @phylliskentevents for perfectly planning everything.

Thank you to @olhapro_photography who captured everything so beautifully.

A million words of thanks to @alacroixpatissier. They had the most amazing staff, and prepared the most incredible food in their cozy space.

And to @tehomcenterpublishing for taking a chance on me, and all the words in this book.

#ruffledbygrace #ruffledbygraceweddings #authorsofinstagram #booklaunchevent #booklauch

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